We use compassion when we are able to demonstrate empathy and we can translate that into action. Many of us, however, will not allow ourselves the same level of compassion as we would others. Why is that? Do not mistake self compassion for letting yourself off the hook. Think of a time when you were compassionate. Were you empathetic? Were your fair? The chances are the answer to those questions is yes. Unfortunately many of us are not as fair or empathetic and subsequently compassionate to ourselves. You know when others deserve compassion. When you can extend that to yourself then you will be exercising a high level of emotional intelligence.
Self compassion is another part of the self esteem equation.