The A – Z of Emotional Resilience: The letter I!


Inspirational – you would expect in any cheesy journal that this would figure highly. For us it is more than simply the obvious.

In order to inspire others we need to inspire ourselves. Really inspiring ourselves without drawing on negative and angry energy takes a special kind of emotional resilience. It takes self care, dedication and self discipline but the rewards are there. Imagine getting up and feeling inspired by yourself every day. Now that’s a vision.

There is an important consequence of inspiring others. Being inspirational is a form of giving. Giving is an act of kindness and there is often nothing better for an emotional top up than to know that you have carried out an act of kindness.

Inquisitive – Those of us that are driven can often become somewhat tunnel visioned and blinkered. This can lead us to get in to a rut and deal only with tasks and objectives that we conceived will be the way towards whatever goal we have set ourselves. Before long we find ourselves in transactional acts that seem to have little intrinsic emotional payback and we can start to feel dissatisfied and bored, or worse still, stressed.

Being inquisitive can lead us to discover better and fresh ways of doing things. It can lead us to uncover tactics and strategies that can help us live better and be more emotionally complete. The day we lose our curiosity is the day we may as well pack up and go home.

Intelligent – In terms of IQ intelligence is scored and, as far as those that put great relevance to that scale are concerned, it will change little no matter what we do. Have you noticed though that someone can be an intellectual giant and still appear to behave in ways that a lot of us would categorise as less than intelligent.

Intelligence in the round comprises more than just our intellectual capacity. Howard Gardner in his book The Theory of Multiple Intelligences suggests that there are 9 type of intelligence. These range from mathematical to existential and take in musical and linguistic intelligence. Our point here is that it is one thing to be intelligent and other to use that intelligence build your own resilience and that of others and it is worth recognising in which intelligence our strengths lie.

Instructive – There is a fine line between being instructive i.e. helping another with some direction and being controlling and creating dependency. Being instructive with others can be part of holding you own emotional boundaries so that they are not continually crashed and is another facet of self awareness, self compassion and self esteem.

Equally instructing another in anything can be an act of kindness (see above) as long as (in our opinion) it does not go so far as that they feel dependent upon us for continual instruction. Creating dependency is not good for anyone’s personal growth.